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Jett Superior laid this on you on || October 21, 2008 || 9:56 pm

Rest in peace, Sweetface


Her brain remained swollen and nonresponsive; she never regained consciousness. Her friends and family kept a vigil at her side for forty-eight hours until the family decided to let her go gracefully. Her organs will be harvested for donation and I think there is great poetry in that.

Thank you, especially, to the NICU staff at the phenomenal UAB hospital. Thank you for giving us all open access to her, for letting us gather to sing and whisper and pray over her, for letting us prop her family up unencumbered and even doing it with a sense of welcome. You were so very good to our friends and your humanity helped more than the constraints of simple words will allow me to convey.

It’s pretty safe to refer to me as a gutsy girl. I’m not an especially fearful person. I have, pretty much, exactly one fear (and it is fairly crippling after a fashion): That fear is that some harm might come to one of my children. The losses of the past two years, they are marching up closer and closer and I’m a nervous fucking wreck right now.

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  1. Such a sad story! I’m so sorry!

  2. chris robinson 10.22.2008

    Just heartbreaking. I’m so sorry.

  3. cIII 10.22.2008

    Your Fear is the same Fear that makes me bite my nails to the Quick.

    It just ain’t Fair. And, I’m sorry.

  4. that girl 10.22.2008

    ditto what cIII said – so sorry

  5. bejewell 10.22.2008

    No words. Only heartfelt sympathy for all of you.

  6. Dean 10.22.2008

    I know the fear well – not only because I am now the father of teenagers, but because as a teenager myself I lived the exact scene you describe in the hospital room of my friend who’s parents made a similar, heart-wrenching decision to let him go. “Sorry” doesn’t seem enough, but it’s all I have.

  7. lizard 10.22.2008

    these things i always feel in my gut, like a swift kick. i have those same fears about my kids, they never go away. my deepest sympathies to all…

  8. Captain Dumbass 10.22.2008

    Sorry, Jett.

  9. megan 10.23.2008

    I’m so sorry.

  10. Coelecanth 10.24.2008

    Ah shit. All I can think is: When the wolves are circling you light a big fire, huddle together and show those fuckers your teeth.

  11. Laggin 10.24.2008

    There’s a single tear running down my cheek.

  12. Seaweed 10.24.2008

    I am sorry for you and for her family. I know there is no greater pain than that.

  13. Jettomatika 10.27.2008

    You are all sweeties, thank you for your kindnesses.

  14. maggie, dammit 10.28.2008

    Ahh, fuck.

    I am so very, very sorry. Worst nightmare, indeed. I can’t even begin to imagine.

  15. Jettomatika 11.3.2008

    Thank you very much, every last one of you.


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